LynnNChicago Bethenny Ever After
Before writing today’s blog about Bethenny Ever After I did something that I never do, I read Bethenny’s Bravo blog. Get this opening line:
Well this week’s episode was chock-full. The drive out to the Hamptons was absurd, as is everything in my life.
This is NOT Bethenny’s writing and it’s ridiculous! ”Chock-full” who says that? Certainly not Bethenny Frankel!
On with the show, Bethenny begins with her Annual Skinnygirl celebration in Montauk and it was nice to see her playing with Bryn, once again we don’t see the inside of the home in Montauk. For you parents out there, do you remember the first time you put your child barefoot in the grass? Bethenny set Bryn down in the brown, drying grass with no shoes and her reaction was exactly as I remember with my children. Bethenny didn’t seem to realize that is why Bryn was just standing there in shock feeling grass on her feet for the first time. It was cute!
We all saw the previews and heard the news that Jason and Bethenny struggled through their second year of marriage and tonight we saw evidence of that. They seem annoyed with each other a lot of the time but I found it interesting that when Jason finally spoke up and gave Bethenny a hard time out on the lawn in Montauk, Bethenny curled up in his lap immediately afterward. I think Bethenny respects him more when he stands up for himself.
The argument back in their apartment in New York was a bit more frustrating to watch. Bethenny just seemed to want to argue and she wasn’t going to back down. She even interrupted Jason saying, “We don’t like each other”, that stopped Jason in his tracks. Jason complained that Bethenny doesn’t pick her battles, she never seems to let anything go and it’s starting to wear on Jason.
It is sad to see this couple arguing the way they are as they did seem really good for each other, what is worse is the previews for next week showing them arguing while holding little Bryn in their arms.
Jason arrived in Montauk separately with Bethenny’s two assistants in tow, they immediately announced that Jason hit a “pack”of raccoons on their trip and Bethenny can’t seem to understand why they didn’t stop and call 911. Really? What does she think the police will do? They are not trained vets and can’t save the animals, besides they have real crime to deal with, there is probably a New York Housewife driving drunk somewhere in the Hamptons. ohhh Snap!
The Hoppy’s got together with their designers, architect and builder to plan their new dream home, the plans look amazing and when it’s finished it will be gorgeous. I was really disappointed to hear Bethenny say at the end of the meeting, “The House that Skinnygirl built”. I think that was a bit of a slam at Jason and it could have gone without saying. While it is likely the truth, why remind Jason that it’s Bethenny’s money that built their new dream home? We now know that Jason is sensitive to the money issue after learning that Bethenny insisted he sign a pre-nuptial agreement and he’s not happy about it.
I will give Bethenny a lot of credit, she’s an Executive Producer of the show and has control of what goes on the air, she isn’t showing herself only in a good light. She seems to be showing the good and the bad, we have to appreciate that.
Bethenny’s therapy session was a set up for the “Lost At Sea” episode, her doctor explained his team building type couples therapy session that he does on a sailboat. The couple have to work together to keep the boat moving. If anyone has ever sailed on a sailboat, you know it’s not a matter of starting the engine and driving it like a car, there is a lot of work involved. Jason doesn’t seem thrilled with the idea of being “analyzed” by Bethenny’s doctor and Bethenny isn’t pushing him to go, she did tell him that if he doesn’t want to go, they won’t go. Apparently sea-sickness could be an issue but it seems Jason is more worried about what the doctor may have to say about Jason and their relationship.
Jason, like Ken Todd on the Real Housewives of Beverly Hills, doesn’t believe that therapy is necessary. Ken told us that he would rather speak to his wife Lisa about their problems directly. I’m sure Jason wishes he was able to have reasonable discussions with his wife but there are absolutely issues that aren’t being resolved because of the way that they communicate. There is so much sarcasm on both sides.
Outside of being lost at sea, it’ll be interesting to see how they do on this trip. We know they have a big fight just trying to get there, the previews show Jason walking away from the helicopter that is meant to take them to the sailboat.
Obviously this couple is still together today, they’re not separated or divorcing, we know this based on photos and Tweets that Bethenny sent out recently. They will get through this but it’s painful to watch this couple struggling so much at this time when they should be happy. They have everything they want and certainly everything that they need, they should be on top of the world.
Love Broker Premiere by BB
I have high hopes that Bravo will be offering a palatable matchmaking show this time around. It boggles my mind that they have stuck with Millionaire Matchmaker for as long as they have and seem to continue to be in love with Patti Stanger. Why, I cannot fathom as she is a coarse, insulting know it all who has an abysmal matchmaking record. I have to wonder if the millionaires on her show actually came to her matchmaking business on their own or if most of them were dug up by Bravo.
The Love Broker centers around Lori Zaslow and Jennifer Zucher, who run Project Soulmate, described on their website as “Manhattan’s premiere matchmaking service for singles who are serious about looking for a long, lasting relationship. We provide the most personalized approach to connecting clients with their true romantic partners for life – their soulmates.”
Here’s a link to their website. http://www.projectsoulmate.
Lori is married with two children and was featured as a Mom of the Week on the Big City Mom’s website. Here’s a link to her interview: http://www.bigcitymoms.com/
Lori meets with a client named David Fisher. He’s forty and ready to get married. They are talking outside, which is where she usually meets her clients. Not in the office. Her visual impression of him is that he’s dressed like a 16 year old. She wants to see him as David not Fish, which is what his friends call him. He doesn’t look like someone is on the fast track to a serious relationship. She asks to hold his hat and asks him who he is emotionally. He says people don’t usually take him seriously. He says he’s not afraid of commitment but it just hasn’t been right for him in the past. He wants someone social and outgoing. Looks wise, he doesn’t want someone tall because he’s only 5’9”. They start looking at girls walking by and critique them. Lori takes off her shoes when they start walking and he feels Lori is his size-type. He points out a couple of girls that are his type. He likes the petite ones. Now she has an idea of what he wants looks wise. He tells her he doesn’t want the perfect girl, he wants perfect for him.
Lori and her staff work out of her husband’s office. He is a fashion headhunter. He gets a little irritated with her when she interrupts his work and wants her to stay in her corner of the office. Jenn is her business partner and they are complete opposites. She is the business money person. Lori’s staff talks about who would be right for David. Their clients are men and they have a database of women to choose from. They select two women who they think might be a good match for David.
Lori meets one of the women they picked for David in person in a place outside the office. Her name is Samantha and she tells Lori she thinks she missed the boat in the marriage and relationship department. She tells her about some of her dating disasters like the man who dropped his pants in front of her. She’s doesn’t really date men her own height and Lori asks her if she would be willing to wear flats. She is reluctant but agrees. Lori tells her about David’s hat and she asks if David is bald. Already she’s judging David and Lori decides she may not be the right person for him.
Ivy shows up to meet Lori and she is only 4”11” and a half. Lori feels she is more David’s type. She has had several long term relationships so she is a relationship person. Ivy says she is not the standard New York chick. She tells Lori she’s open-minded when meeting new people and likes to give them a shot. Ivy has a strong personality and Lori thinks that’s what David needs.
Lori’s back at the office and tells Jenn Ivy is the best match for David rather than Samantha. Jenn tells Lori she has a meeting with a new client who seems to have an edge on the phone. His name is Fagan and he’s 29. He’s not generally into long term relationships and is into just banging. He keeps notes on his phone about his various girls. He tells her he won’t sleep with women who are pro-life in case they get knocked up. He’s not genuinely looking for true love and Lori will not take him on as a client.
Lori meets with David to prep him for his date. She’s disappointed in the way he’s dressed. No hat, but a headband. She tells him he needs to look like David, not Fish when he’s possibly going to be meeting the love of his life. She tells David his date is with “Izzy” and that she’s 4’11”. She tells him he should definitely ask her out on the second date on the first date. He’s afraid of rejection. Lori says it’s important to act interested in the second date on the first date. He says he doesn’t like to hug but she suggests he hug “Izzy” when he meets her and they practice it. Lori thinks the greeting is important. David hasn’t decided on a handshake or a hug. Lori is worried about David blowing the first impression. She tells him to present himself as David, not Fish.
Lori tells her husband that his assistant has arranged for Ivy to meet with one of David’s clients Nicole Miller to pick out a dress for the date. Her husband is not happy about that because now he will owe Nicole Miller a favor. Ivy is so excited about going to Nicole Miller to shop for a new dress. They meet with Nicole Miller personally and she helps her find a dress for dinner. Nicole wants Ivy to feel comfortable and confident. Ivy tries on several dresses and picks a cute black and white striped dress that fits perfectly.
Lori calls David 30 minutes before the date and tells him his date’s name. She describes what she is wearing so he will know who she is. David is wearing jeans, a v-neck sweater and sneakers to this date. He’s sitting there waiting for his date and she arrives. He stands and greets Ivy with a hug. They start the date with small talk. She loves seafood, he’s a vegetarian. He’s a runner and she hates running. She wears sweatbands and he does too. He wore his security sweatband around his ankle but didn’t take it out. She came there straight from work. They both do blackberries, not i-phones.
Ivy thinks David is very sweet and easy to talk to. He asks her if she dates a lot. She asks him why he thinks he’s still single. He says he doesn’t think he was ready. He has trouble telling Ivy what he’s looking for and he feels he’s not really being himself. The date ends at that point. David would go on a second date with her. Ivy tells Lori there was no connection and things were too on the surface and not deep enough. She didn’t think there was any chemistry and he didn’t make eye contact and he was very jittery. Lori is sad about what Ivy told her.
Lori meets with David later. He thinks the date went well and Ivy is his type of girl. He says he would go out with her again. She gives David feedback about what Ivy told her about the date. David admits he wasn’t great on the date and says he doesn’t know what kind of depth she wanted in the first hour of a date. Lori is not going to give up on David and the next date is going to get him closer to what he wants.
Lori and her husband go on a date and she spends time approaching women to see if they are looking for love. Her husband thinks it’s cool that she does that.
Lori and Patti Stanger are very different in their approaches to matchmaking. Lori’s couples meet on pure old-fashioned blind dates. They know very little or nothing about each other and have never met. Patty sets up cocktail parties and lets her clients pick out their dates from a cattle call Patti has held. Lori set up the dates, not the clients. Patti’s clients set up their own dates. Lori’s clients are males and do not have to be rich. Patti has male and female clients and they must be millionaires.
So far I like Lori’s approach better. I hope she doesn’t disappoint.
Thanks BB, great job, I also much prefer Lori and I loved the little digs she shot through the show like telling viewers they don’t do a “casting” etc. I think I’m going to like Lori, I know I already much prefer her to Stanker! :) Lynn~
Real Housewives of New York
Huffington Post is reporting that the Real Housewives of New York are protesting their long shooting schedule. Seriously? This season Ramona and Lulu both reportedly received raises bringing their season salary to $500,000 yet they are complaining when the season’s shooting runs a little long? Huffington Post says that they became frustrated that the “new girls” weren’t familiar with how to film causing everything to take much longer than initially anticipated but we all know that the season filming typically runs longer than what Bravo tells the cast.
After learning a bit about the way they film the shows, we now know that often times it is the cast themselves who cause filming to run long due to their frequent tardiness and demands for hair/makeup at the last minute. Here is what Huffington had to say:
The new season of “Real Housewives of New York” has yet to air, but things have already gotten so nasty between the new and returning cast members that one group has gone on strike.
“LuAnn [de Lesseps], Sonja [Morgan] and Ramona [Singer] refused to shoot any scenes at Fashion Week in February, complaining that production was dragging on well past the date that was agreed upon, so they went on strike,” one of the original cast members tells me. “Ultimately, they did return to tape a final few scenes, but it’s not fair that they should have to give up their time, with no extra pay, just so the slower new girls can learn how to tape a TV show.”
In past seasons, the New York ladies have cleared their schedules from September to February, while keeping in mind that taping could extend a week or two beyond that. But this year, Ramona, in particular, fought back against the extended filming schedule — leading the other ladies to follow her on the filming strike, the original cast member said.
“They might call it a strike, but the network sees it more as a little disagreement,” a Bravo insider tells me. “In the end, the ladies that didn’t make themselves available to shoot only hurt themselves, as it means the new girls will get extra airtime. What I can guarantee you is that if Ramona thinks she is going to win by messing with the new ladies, she can think again. These girls are killers.”
Bravo’s spokesperson would not comment on any story lines for the forthcoming season, but guaranteed that no one will be disappointed.
I think we all know which fired housewife gave statements to Huffington, there is only one that remains in contact with Ramona and Sonja. We did see photos of the new Housewives at Fashion week, the three ladies pictured above better watch out, the newbies could outshine them. I’ll be watching!
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